This is a practice I swore by for ten years. Every morning began systematically with a cup of tea and a gratitude list, it was all I knew for so long. They went hand in hand. Some days I literally wrote that I was grateful for that cup of tea and that was it. Other days I wrote and wrote and wrote. Things do change once you become a mother, the usual routine you know so well is swept under the rug until you are ready to dig it back out. I certainly slammed hard against that floor some days peeling the paper from the boards in need of a simple dose of GET GRATEFUL. During those hard times I knew it would help me get back on my feet, out of self pity and into a new positive perspective. However, to bring a gratitude list back into my life on a daily basis seemed like way too much commitment; just like working out, I kept setting myself up for failure!
Then there are the days when we really need to be faced with a message from reality as we can get so caught up. Social media has presented a real problem of false advertising our lives and worse, other peoples lives. It is easy to get into judgement, jealousy and comparison. Perfect pictures of perfect lives. What does it all really mean anyways? This year has been a transition for me, walking away from things which brought me false feelings of happiness. With that comes a different path, lit by a different light. However, I know my choices are good ones but at the moment I need a daily reminder. I need to know that I have everything I need right here in my home, in my family and in my heart. There is so much I want, but the need is so much smaller. Before I knew it, I was tangled in resentment and negativity. I needed relief and to be set free from this obsession of what I don't have, how much more we need and being in acceptance of decisions I have made, the only way I know how to do this is to grab a pencil, some paper and start writing...
If you have never done a gratitude list, let me explain. It makes very little sense to write out all your miseries, complaints and concerns every morning, it is counter intuitive. You want to feel freedom with a positive twist. The idea is to do the opposite. Let's say you are resentful or annoyed about a certain situation, you are fully aware of your feelings around this, just writing it out clarifies it for you in big black letters. However, if you switch it and write how grateful you are for that person, that job, or that thing, I promise you an attitude adjustment shall occur. Some times it takes a few days of repeating yourself but eventually that shift comes. It is also good practice to write all the things that you are truly grateful for in your life that day. It just sums up how there are many things in your life which are wonderful and easily go unseen. The concept it to change the negative energy into positive energy, and the positive vibes which already exist you are simply acknowledging with a thank you. We all need a daily dose of perspective. Our egos can run riot and it is all to easy to get caught up in negative space.
I have began writing daily again, I am beyond 'grateful' to be finding the time to fit this back into my rhythm I see the changes in perspective and it brings me peace.